RANSVESTIA

VESTI

had made our way successfully as such. Now we were six women, all self supporting and completely integrated into our womanhood. We all went to a restaurant for dinner and then returned to my house for a gab fest. We all realized just what I said in the preceeding paragraph, that all of our former masculine lifes knowledge and experience was still available to us and that we could us it, when it was appropriate, without the sense of shame or inappropriateness that we might have felt using a feminine solution when we were man. Women don't live in such mental insecurity as men do. They seldom feel ashamed of doing something that a man might appropriately do. So we were all very happy in our liberated, free choice situation.

Now by mentioning this group I am not in any way suggesting or urging anyone else to take steps to get themselves into a similar cir cumstance. As a matter of fact, in today's world, it si becoming less and less necessary for a male to change gender (let along sex) as a means of expressing his inner femininity because it is gradually becoming more acceptable that a male should express qualities formerly considered to be feminine-longhair and necklaces for men are two obvious manifestations of this. I mention the group only to provide an illustration of six people who choose one "escape hatch" but there are others. Since I am writing for an FP readership, I would urge you to consider the philosophy of androgeneity and its puss ibilities and benefits in your own life. Your dressing activities serve as a sort of entry way into it. When you are a girl try to let go and enjoy those ways of doing things, of reacting to situations, of enjoying life that are more characteristic of girls. Make a point of abandoning so far as is possible those attitudes and points of view that are generally appropriate for and expressed by your brother. When you get to feeling more at home with these feelings and attitudes, try to carry some of them over into your brother's life so that you will be able to develop some degree of androgeneity. In short, what I'm trying to say it let your sister help her brother to escape from the prison of masculinity. This has to be done with discretion of course, I wouldn't want you to break out in tears in the office when the boss calls you down for something. But it does mean that you can learn to be more aware of your emotions, your intuitive ideas-among men referrred to as hunches because after all, only women have intuition. Right? Wrong! Try putting yourself in the other parties position sometime and see how what you have just done or said or are about to do or say will seem to him or her. Empathy is very useful to have. Try being more considerate, more tender, surprise the heck out of

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